Getinsider informationon the Family Court process and how toensure you get a compelling Section 7 report without labelling your ex as a narcissist or being assumed to be the abuser
The vast majority of cases involving a high conflict, abusive ex will be referred to a Section 7 report
It is therefore essential that you learn what social workers are looking for to ensure they take your concerns seriously.
Let Get Court Ready be your guide
Whether you are facing an alienating parent who has created a false narrative around you being the abuser or a difficult co-parent who wants to use the children to perpetuate post separation and legal abuse, Get Court Ready can provide you with the tools to obtain a protective order for you and your children.
Get Court Ready: Empowering You to Achieve Justice Against Psychologically Abusive Exes
Benefit One
Gain Legal Confidence
With Get Court Ready, you'll learn how to navigate the family court system with ease. Our comprehensive online course will provide you with the knowledge and skills necessary to confidently stand up for yourself and your family in court.
Benefit Two
Outsmart Your Ex
Your ex-partner may be using manipulation and psychological tactics to intimidate you in court. Our course will equip you with the tools you need to anticipate and counter these tactics, giving you the upper hand in any legal proceeding.
Benefit Three
Secure Your Children's Future
The safety and wellbeing of your children is paramount. Our course will teach you how to effectively advocate for your children's best interests in court, ensuring their future is protected.
Benefit Four
Maximise Your Chances of Winning
With expert guidance and insider knowledge, Get Court Ready will help you build a strong case and increase your chances of winning in court. Our step-by-step approach will walk you through the process, from preparing your evidence to presenting your case with confidence.
Benefit Five
Protect Your Mental Health
Navigating a legal battle with an abusive ex can be emotionally taxing. Get Court Ready will provide you with the tools and support you need to prioritize your mental health, so you can stay strong and focused throughout the process.
Benefit Six
Access Expert Guidance
Our course is designed by experienced social work professionals who have helped countless individuals like you succeed in court. With their guidance, you'll have access to insider tips and strategies that can make all the difference in your case.
Get Court Readyprovides you with the essential perspective of Cafcass officers along with a deep psychological understanding of personality disorders, giving you the opportunity to THRIVE despite the difficulties in Family Court and to overcome the systemic biasfor you and your children
FAMILY COURT FACTS
Judges defer to Cafcass reports in the majority of cases.
THEREFORE YOU NEED TO MAKE SURE YOUR MEETING WITH FCA'S GO WELL
Without expert guidance
you run the risk
of falling victim to
the following problems....
Family Court fails domestic abuse victims
In the 2020 Assessing Risk of Harm to Children and Parents in Private Law Children Cases published by the Ministry of Justice, serious concerns were raised about how the Family Courts were failing to protect domestic abuse victims. In 2019/2020 there were 55,253 private law children applications and at least 40% of them raised issues of domestic abuse.
Parental Alienation is repeatedly mismanaged
According to the 2020 research paper The Clinical and Legal Management
of Parental Alienation in the
United Kingdom by Wolverhampton University, professionals reported that outcomes from family court for children experiencing parental alienation were mainly rated as extremely poor (77.8%).
Get Court Ready is designed specifically for victims of domestic abuse
It is the only gender-neutral programme of it's kind designed to empower, prepare and heal victims of domestic abuse as they go through the Family Court system.
Get Court Ready includes guidance on Parental Alienation
Despite the controversy and campaign to see alienating behaviours removed from the Domestic Abuse Guidance, we have worked with enough mothers and fathers experience alienation to know that, no matter what you call it, it exists and therefore you need to understand what it is and what it is NOT in order to protect your family.
Hi, I'm SARAH SQUIRES
My background is Social Work so I understand first hand the devastating consequences of being subjected to abuse on children. I also believe that positive parent-child relationships are essential for positive outcomes for children. Sadly, being in Family Court puts that at risk.
After years of working with clients not only dealing with the aftermath of an abusive relationship but also re-traumatised by the Family Court system, I wanted to create a solution which would tackle the main problems clients were sharing with me. Namely:
abusers are using the system and it's outdated methods to continue the abuse
children are being ripped from healthy, loving parents and left with psychologically abusive parents
a victims natural reactions to trauma and grief were being used against them by ill-informed professionals
In 2020 the Ministry of Justice published their own findings which confirmed all my clients had been telling me. Coupled with the approval of the Domestic Abuse Bill 2020, and having already developed Get Court Ready, I knew that now was the time this programme was needed.
Get Court Ready is trauma-informed, gender neutral and evidence based. It is designed to tackle the main issues identified within Family Court for victims of domestic abuse.
It empowers you to take control of your case and your experience. You will have access to tools which can help you organise the vast volumes of evidence you have and present in a way which leaves no room for confusion about what is happening in your case and therefore reduce the time spent countering false allegations and accusations designed to delay the process and portray you in a false light.
You will be given access to tools to help you take back control of your emotions so that your ex cannot use your natural responses to lies, blame and trauma against you. This will prevent their false narrative from gaining momentum and ensure the truth is available much earlier in the process, saving you time and energy in the long run.
It aims to counteract unconscious bias and stereotypes around how victims "should" present by including an incredible neuroresilience toolkit designed to help heal the symptoms of complex PTSD, anxiety and trauma.
It includes alienation because the term is contenious in Family Court and can be missed or misused. We believe that Get Court Ready will help real victims present their cases with more clarity and confidence, thus revealing false allegations and abusive behaviours faster.
I’ve learned a great deal about what works and what doesn’t.
MYTH NUMBER ONE
"All men are perpetrators and all women are victims"
People of any gender can perpetrate domestic abuse and it can happen in different and same-sex couples. In the case reviews analysed, both men and women perpetrated domestic abuse (NSPCC report 2020).
By taking focus away from the behaviours, it makes it harder for ALL VICTIMS to get the justice they deserve.
Professionals need to be open-minded about allegations of domestic abuse.
Three main theories you need to consider are:
PARENT A is behaving badly
PARENT A is not (for the most part) behaving badly, PARENT B is fabricating allegations
Both are contributing
Either party can be PARENT A and PARENT B.
Writing For Court helps you to outline your argument
MYTH NUMBER TWO
"Victims should present in a certain way and not be over/under emotional"
PTSD puts the nervous system into hyper- or hypo-arousal state, which manifests as either emotionally numb or overwhelmed.
The mis-attribution of emotional responsiveness puts ALL VICTIMS at risk of being further traumatised by the process.
Most victims are plunged straight into a court battle following separation and often have to prioritise legal fees over therapy.
You need support that your legal team simply cannot provide. Without it you are like a mouse facing a big cat! Your emotions WILL be used against you so if you don't learn to regulate, you are putting yourself at risk.
The Neuro-resilience toolkit has practices to help you manage your emotions
MYTH NUMBER THREE
"Parental Alienation is rare and is more often used as a tool by abusive men to regain control of their ex"
In a research paper carried out by the University of Wolverhampton, seven (77.8%) respondents stated they had been involved in cases in which they had identified parental alienation was a factor. Cafcass themselves admitted that “Parental alienation is responsible for around 80% of the most intransigent cases that come before the family courts" (Sarah Parsons 2016).
Denying alienation exists puts mother's, father's and children at risk of it being misused or missed completely.
You need to know what something is before you can categorically say what it isn't.
Understanding how abuse presents, including psychological abuse, is essential in cases like yours.
It's important that you use your evidence to effectively prove alienation without falling into the trap of reinforcing your exes false narrative.
EVIDENCETRACKER plus the bonus materials can help you build a strong case for alienation/coercive control
The Devastating Story Of Archie Spriggs
The tragic story of little Archie Spriggs who was failed by the dominant flawed media narrative that women are only victims of domestic abuse and that all claims of parental alienation are made only with 'malicious' intent. Trigger Warning - Some of this video may upset viewers (Parental Alienation UK 2021)
"The wishes and feelings of the children should be paramount when making decisions about contact"
In 2010/11, Dr Kirk Weir found that out of 78 children he interviewed who had previously expressed a desire NOT to have contact with one parent, 15 of them told him that they actually DID want contact with the previously rejected parent.
Abusive parents are easily able to coercively control the children into saying what the abuser wants them to say.
If a child is rejecting a parent or making false claims about them, it is essential that a thorough assessment is done on the family to ensure that the dynamics are identified correctly and interventions can be enforced to protect the child from either valid fears or psychological control by a parent.
Being able to demonstrate a persistent and consistent pattern of alienating and coercively controlling behaviours, you can protect your relationship with your child.
EVIDENCETRACKER helps you to reveal patterns and themes
You need to be able to powerfullydeliver your evidence and prevent a false narrative gaining momentum
Get Court Ready gives you the tools to gain confidence, clarity and credibility
AND
use your exes behaviours to prove the truth and protect you and your children
It's about more than the volume of your evidence, it's how you present it. EVIDENCETRACKER helps you to:
Prove Abuse: Without looking like you are making a fuss over nothing.
Expose Lies: Stop the he said she said and show the truth.
Revealing Patterns: That prove to the courts that this is ongoing manipulation.
Alienating Behaviours: Record the facts about the situation in real time so you can demonstrate each time you’ve been alienated.
WHAT SUCCESSFUL PARENTS DO DIFFERENTLY
THEY UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS AND PROBABLE PITFALLS BEFORE THEY START
One of the biggest factors which influences someone's success in court in cases like yours is the ability to play the long game.
Abusers present well and you will not.
This allows the false narrative they present to easily gather momentum and once you are behind it can be difficult to catch up let alone take back control.
Get Court Ready provides you with a thorough preparation for what to expect from your ex, the process and the professionals to prevent the false narrative even getting started.
THEY FOCUS ON THEIR WELL-BEING
You have been in an abusive relationship. You probably have PTSD. And you expect to be able to fight a master manipulator and an obsessive ex?
It's like expecting to beat Anthony Joshua with broken arms AND legs!
Your weakness is their strength and they will use it against you.
Get Court Ready is a parallel process of healing and preparation. You get to process your trauma in safety, develop tools to manage your emotions and heal as well as preparing all your evidence and learning how to create strong relationships with professionals to get good reports.
THEY FOCUS THEIR EVIDENCE ON PATTERNS
Unfortunately this is one of those cases where the vast quantity of evidence can work against you if you aren't focused. The court doesn't have time to read every piece of evidence and so you need to get clear on what you want and why.
Otherwise it will quickly become a case of he said/she said (or he said/he said or she said/she said).
Get Court Ready gives you the exact process for presenting your evidence in a powerful and easy to digest way so that judges know straight away what is going on (or at least what to look out for).
THEY LET THEIR EX REVEAL THEMSELVES
Family Court against an abuser can often be like telling everyone you have seen a ghost.... no-one believes you until they see it for themselves.
The more you say it's true, the crazier you sound (gaslighting at it's finest!).
Get Court Ready helps you to profile your exes psychology so that, rather than be at the mercy of them, you take control of the situation and trigger them into reacting just as you have experienced, using their predictability against them.
At the start of the process you might already be worrying about how you are going to afford it, especially if you suspect your ex will stop at nothing to punish you.
Having a set, one off price really gives you the security you need right now AND Get Court Ready will save your legal time time in organising, preparing and deciding on what evidence to submit.
UNRELENTING LIES
Having so many lies told about you can be overwhelming and leave you feeling attacked from all angles, especially when people seem to be so quick to believe them. The temptation will be to defend yourself but this can play into your exes hands by portraying you as controlling, refusing to take responsibility or unstable.
Get Court Ready will show you how to use their behaviour against them, prepare you for the lies so they don't impact you so much and help you emotionally regulate so you can respond from a much calmer place.
NOT BEING TAKEN SERIOUSLY
After years of being ignored and dismissed by your ex, you hope that professionals will see through their masquerade and take all your evidence on board. Unfortunately, as you found out yourself, it can take time for people to see the truth and often the louder the shout, the less people listen.
Get Court Ready will prepare you for the long game by helping you to manage your expectations, help you to develop good working relationships with professionals by speaking their language and presenting your evidence in such a powerful way that it is impossible to ignore the facts.
EX TO HAVE NO CONTROL OVER YOU
The sole aim of going to court is to give you your freedom and protect you from further abuse. Everything in Get Court Ready is geared towards that same goal. When writing it, we reverse engineered it from where we want you to get to (calm and confident in court, not reacting to tactics, your ex revealing their true selves, getting good reports, having a long term plan to protect from repeated court appearance, the children having safe contact with both parents and you moving forward with your life) back to where you are now (scared, frustrated, angry, confused, unsure).
ROBUST COURT ORDERS
In order to get to the point where your ex has no control over you, there needs to be a robust court order in place. In order to get that robust order, you need to be in the right place.
Get Court Ready aims to support and guide you in every aspect of your journey through Family Court, including helping you to heal your trauma and learn to emotionally regulate yourself so that you can best support your children.
Introducing...
Get Court Ready
Online Programme
The "Get Court Ready" online programme consists of 7 modules with a minimum of 5 lessons in each
Each lesson has an explainer video plus exercises in the companion workbook for you to complete to enhance your learning.
You get Lifetime access to the course, your own unique log in details and access to a private Facebook support group.
Abusers put on a great performance and this can totally throw you off as they make start to doubt themselves, the evidence and your feelings which can impact negatively on their credibility.
Understand the different types of abusers
We talk you through four main types of abusers and some of the behaviours you can expect so that you can manage your reactions better and appear calmer in court.
Discover the psychology of abusers
Many victims of domestic abuse feel guilt and shame which can present as being unstable and unreliable, helping you to understand the true nature of the abuser helps you to detach from the person and the experience.
Identifying their weaknesses
Empower you with an understanding of how to regain some control and help you move past victimhood.
Getting the abuser to reveal themselves
Victims of abuse question their reality and the court process can be invalidating and so giving you the tools helps you to prove your experience was real and helps the court make better and faster decisions.
Using the level of severity quiz results, we explore your options based on the likely behavioural patterns your ex will exhibit
The Process
Signposting to various resources to help you understand more about what to expect from Family Court
Tactics the abuser may use
A summary of the types of behaviours an abusive ex will utilise in court both short and long term including a personalised profile of the types of behaviours to expect
Preparing for false allegations
Using the personal profile to predict false allegations in order to be prepared prior to the allegation being made
Future proofing
What to consider in a Final Order to prevent repeated applications being made
Using the legal framework to help you to process and organise your experience into categories which can be used in writing powerful Position Statements.
Organsing your evidence
Helping you to understand what is counted as evidence and what your exes narrative will be. Includes EVIDENCETRACKER, our specialised reporting spreadsheet to help you organise your evidence and easily access the most important information and documents.
Submittable evidence
Identifying what to include and the goal of the evidence in order to keep the client focused and manage expectations.
Delivering the evidence
Helps you to understand the importance of non-verbal communication is delivering the evidence so it is heard and taken seriously.
Mastering the evidence
Highlights the importance of creating a habit around recording and documenting evidence.
Setting realistic expectations for you about contact with an abusive ex to minimise emotional outbursts, breaches of court orders and disappointment with outcomes.
The legal context
Exploring the legal definition of risk and how to apply it to your case including coercive control, emotional abuse and witness to domestic abuse.
What is risk?
Using child protection and ACE criteria to present associated risk and the impact it is likely to have/be having on the children.
Assessing risk
Explaining the process of risk assessment and the areas examined to enable you to highlight the main areas of concern in a child focused manner.
Managing Risk
Helping you to manage the risk outside of court including referrals to social services, stopping contact and returning to court.
Advising you on who, when and what to do when involving professionals to avoid being accused of spreading lies.
Who to involve
Exploring the specifics of who to involve and in what capacity to ensure you feel supported and has the evidence required. Also includes a section on choosing a solicitor and a psychologist,
Understanding the role of professionals
Explaining the different working models within the Family Court process to help you communicate more effectively and within the services framework.
Working with professionals
Helping you to rewrite any false narratives and present a psychologically effective statement designed specifically for domestic abuse cases.
Getting good reports
Guidance on understanding what constitutes a good report and how to obtain one including the use of opinion, recommendations and consequences.
Helping you to understand the role you have played in the relationship, the current role you are playing and the false narrative of your ex.
Taking responsibility
Recognising the behaviours which your ex will use to create a false narrative, contribute to the conflict and preparing you for false allegations.
Understanding triggers
Helping you to identify your own "hot buttons" which your ex will use to trigger an adverse reaction in you which will then be used as "evidence" of your unreasonable behaviour.
Managing Reactions
Understanding the role of PTSD, using the STOPP method to manage triggers and develop strategies for emotional regulation under pressure.
Self Mastery
Helping you to develop confidence to deal with any allegations or tactics your ex uses both in court and between hearings.
Helping you to process your trauma and release the trauma bond which keeps you connected and emotionally vulnerable to your ex.
Recognising codependency and limiting beliefs
Understanding your codependent traits which keeps you in a cycle of abuse, how your limiting beliefs are shaping your experience and how to resolve them
Creating a powerful life vision
Empowering you with the tools to be future focused with powerful goals.
I Am Safe Course
Understanding the role of PTSD, using EFT and Thought Field Therapy to manage triggers and develop strategies for emotional regulation under pressure.
I Am Safe course
6 Incredible modules
Designed to bring your nervous system back into alignment allowing you to work through your trauma without having to re-experience it.
Effortlessly Regulate Your Nervous System
Cellular Restoration: Release Trauma from your Cells
Functional Physical Restoration: Renew Your Body's Vitality
Emotional Freedom Technique: Find Inner Healing
Thought Field Therapy: Empower Your Mind
I Am Safe Meditation
Worth £19.99
You'll get these BONUSES!
Get £500 worth of Bonuses FREE.
BONUS 1
Parental Alienation Survival Guide
You will receive a free copy of this 107 page guide published by Parental Alienation UK (just indicate at the check out that you would like a copy).
Includes:
A comprehensive introduction to Parental Alienation
Your role as a parent
A child’s rights
The rights of a parent
Signs of PA
Alienating strategies explained
The facts and myths
Alienating behaviours and how to spot the red flags
Living with and understand PA
How to handle an alienated child
Your well-being and support
Understanding the family court system
Support for alienated grandparents
BONUS 2
Study Companion
A 111 page study companion for you to work through with the video lessons to enhance your learning and make the learning relevant to your situation
BONUS 3
A comprehensive guide to communication in Family court
Includes:
Being assertive
BIFF responses
Report Writing for Court
WE ARE NOT DONE THERE.....
You'll also get:
Access
The course is available on computer, laptop or mobile so you can access it anywhere. EVIDENCETRACKER can be saved to your device so you can record your evidence on the go.
Community
Connect with others going through the course to support you and offer assistance. Also includes monthly EVIDENCETRACKER Q&A and healing sessions.
Support
If you have any issues click the "contact" page and send us a message and we will get back to you within 24 hours (Monday to Friday).
Enroll comfortably with our 100%
RISK-FREE Guarantee
We are so confident with Get Court Ready that we offer you a free 14 day guarantee.
This means that if you start the course and you aren't impressed by all that you have access to, simply contact us via the "Contact" page and we will give you a full refund. No questions asked.
We understand that you need to feel confident in us and it can be hard to trust and so we offer this to ease any anxiety you may be feeling about investing in yourself.
Once Again, Here's Everything You
Get ACCESS To Once You Enroll:
Get Court Ready Programme
Preparing you for Family Court against an abusive ex.
7 Powerful Modules
The programme comes in an easy-to-follow format that gets results. This includes lesson videos, checklists and companion workbook in PDF format.
(£500 Value)
Bonus Trainings
You also get four bonus modules with more specific information for your case including Communication in Family Court, Parental Alienation and Narcissistic Abuse.
(£500 Value)
EVIDENCETRACKER
Organise and categorise all your evidence ready for writing powerful position statements.
(£200 Value)
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For less than a half of the price of an hour with a solicitor!
Get Court Ready
£57
For lifetime access, group support and additional resources
After 6 years of being disbelieved and reprimanded for my own behaviour, the GAL did a complete 180 and robustly put their support behind me. As did the Youth Worker. And finally the judge! 4 months down the line and we are free! Living life without fear and the children are supported.
Clare
From someone 13 years past leaving my abuser, I didn’t think anyone could do anything to improve our situation….This course is worth its weight in gold - from someone who was a bit of a skeptic, I stand corrected! Thank you. This works and what you’re doing is so powerful.
Tareq
The advice received was more helpful than the legal advice I was given.
Rob
I thought that you would like to know that after two years of litigation, following the final hearing I have had generous contact restored without limitations including holiday contact.
Faduma
I am a lot more settled and calm. I can feel the change. I have my own boundaries. I feel a lot more relaxed. I just wanted to thank you for all the support and help
Common Questions
I am a father, will this course help me or perpetuate the myth that all victims are women?
We feel very strongly about equal rights and a child’s right to love both parents. Domestic abuse and alienation can happen to men, women, grandparents, siblings and other family members. It is not a gender issue. This course does not follow a gender narrative. It is solely focused on the rights of you, the parent, and how to overcome a flawed legal system.
Will Get Court Ready stop my ex using my children as a weapon against me?
If you focus all your energy on changing your ex, you will waste years and get more and more frustrated will be be used against you. What this course WILL do is help you to achieve success in court and obtain a court order which limits the impact on the children. You will develop the skills, strength and confidence to implement boundaries which will change your day to life and help your children to navigate their own relationship with their other parent.
I have been in court for years with my ex, how will this course help me?
The likelihood is that you weren’t fully prepared when you first when to court and so you may have found yourself the victim to the process. This course will help you develop the skills and knowledge to ensure that all future hearings go differently and you get a different result. Plus you are always going to have this person in your life as they are your children’s parent and so the final section of the course will equip you with the skills to best manage that relationship.
Money is really right, why would I spend my money on this?
I understand that financial abuse is part and parcel of narcissistic abuse and so you have to account for every penny you spend. However, I guarantee that you will save yourself at least ONE HOUR will a lawyer (which is about £150) so actually you will be saving money by taking this course!
